Imagine you walked into a restaurant hungry and you were served with this menu: incomplete nutrient, slimy/soured taste already, rottened smell & a chilled can of expired juice! Hmm... I can guess your action at the waiter even at the cheapest of prices! Bearing a bad meal & staying in a stale or expired relationship is just as potentially dangerous as deliberately piercing a knife through your palm!
Science tell us that man is a social being thus, he must relate things around him especially with other bbeings like himm. In fact, it is said that no man is an Island, we all need each other... these & many more statements like these have left many people stuck in unprofitable , ill treated rrelationships that they can not fathum themselves!
Science can not be wrong with their accertions but it has failed to draw a visible line for guided relationship thus, the need for discretion, resoning and discernment.
Association & relationships can not be restricted as such, they are critical to living & important for successes of the different aspect of your life. Therefore, in choosing friends, it is just important to have clear intent & reasons for a choice. Neglectiong this truth, may put you in a dungeon you never can come out from! I have heard people describe frienship in 3 levels: acquintance, peripheral & intimate friendship.
This is an attempt to classify friendship at every point. For me, whether intent or type, you must know that every form friendship/association or relationship, has an expiry date. Like that product on the shelf of a Grossary store once you reach that date all that made that association a site to behold falls apart. Even the greatest relationship, marraige has an expiry date thus, experts advice to after a period of time refresh so oil & fuel comes anew!
My prescription for breaking free unprofitable relationship begins with a proper evaluation after you notice the struggle to stay on. You must evaluate your life & times periodically to note a symbiosis. Once there is a feeling of absence in mutualness a gradual secession is adviced. Everyone needs the other but not at every point. You must be smart enough not to trash relationships as they could one day be needed. Humans are like clothes kept in the hanger of a wardrobe: you don't wear all the clothes at once: so when you need them, reach for the particular one you want! Be careful never to burn the bridges with your actions or words cause you may need to use that bridge again someday!
Managing unprofitable relationships need a lot of tact & wisdom. It remains a paradox how associations canbe the greatest source of joy & pain at the same time.
You could choose a another meal on the menu list, you could choose a healthier relationship. God is d giver of wisdom: His wisdom when applied can avert tongue wars, physical combats, revive dying associations, suspend parasitic relationships. Note, people will respond to your actions as Pride when you try to break away but wisdom says you know what you want, are doing & aiming at.
Till I come your way again with truth that illuminates in the darkest night, keep your torch burning!
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